Last week we discussed how God calls us to love Him first, above our families. This week I wanted to talk about the priorities within our families: that as moms we need to prioritize our husbands – even above our children.
I say this by way of confession: it’s easy to put my children ahead of my husband. They’re needier – and their needs are more urgent. They’re dependent on me and therefore sap my energy wholly. I know you know what I’m talking about. I remember when we first got married and before we had kids, it was a struggle to keep God first and not elevate my husband above Him. Now, in this stage of life, it’s sometimes hard to remember I have a husband!
Before having children, I was often tempted to put my husband “above” God – to treasure my relationship with Tyler more than I treasured God, to get all of my hope and security in Tyler instead of God, to save up all of my thoughts, desires and hardships to work through with Tyler instead of turning to God first. Now that I have children, I’m still tempted to put Tyler above God – but it’s even harder these days to put my children before God. If I’m honest, prioritizing my children, and even idolizing them, comes as second-nature. They dominate my thoughts, enslave my emotions, and consume my desires. But this verse calls me to love God first.